Sometimes in a relationship, problems can arise from lack of common interests:
No appreciation for the things that are important to you. No participation or maybe grudging participation... Lack of interest in discussing and growing from a shared experience.
Or instead, it could go like this: "They really don't have much in common, but somehow it works. Opposites attract!"
You could have some things together and other things separately. You do things with your pals and he does things with his buddies.
You could even just be happy partners in domesticity. Never underestimate the value of having someone who wants to feed you.
There are a lot of different configurations... I think basically, you can make anything you want to work work. The secret ingredient that will superglue anything together is LOVE.
That being said, when someone stomps out your love like a cigarette butt... and you find yourself in a vacuum of leadership, interests, moral guidance, and influence... a tabula rasa desperate for anyone to give a shit... Before you go ahead and get out the kindling to try again, you might want to actually make a conscious choice. Do I really want to go there? Why????? Being unhappily married might just be one of the worst things in the world. I might just fix it just to stop the pain. But I am so strong and have nothing to lose that I could also do anything I want to. Roll down the mountain like a speedy fat Sissyphus, scoot up the half pipe on the other side and do a 360 right over your head... Who knows?
I think I'm meant to help people someday...
I don't want to be a train wreck. I started blogging wanting to be somewhat entertaining...
Schadenfreude? : )
1 year ago