Wednesday, July 28, 2010

Have a Day

It's all just the same damned day. --Janis Joplin

Monday, July 26, 2010


Here is the band I saw Saturday night! It was great, but the venue was hot. And crowded. Like a meat sauna. The band was wonderful! Had fun, lost a few pounds! : )

Thursday, July 22, 2010

Are Too, Me Too

Had quite a busy day yesterday. Worked late, met some girlfriends for coffee, went to see my Dad (who finally got his trach out again : ) and went to the grocery store.

At the grocery store two employees were stocking items. One was putting away frozen and the other was doing lunch meat I think. I overheard some of their conversation:

1st Lady: You know I have diabetes.

2nd Lady: Me too.

1st Lady: But I don't take shots, I manage it with diet.

2nd Lady: I don't take shots either, but I take {garbled}.

1st Lady: I take that too. But my doctor says if it continues to get worse, I will need insulin shots.

2nd Lady: Me too. My doctor said I will too if I'm not careful...

I thought that was pretty funny. Not that they have diabetes, which is a shame, just the way they were talking, trying to outdo each other by me-tooing each other. Okay, wow, that's not even funny at all, now that it's typed out. Maybe it was the timing? It's all in the timing. As in, it's 10 o'clock at night and I'm bushed and loopy.

Anyway, this made me think of the way women identify with each other. Any pet peeve, they totally know! It bugs them too, we are so alike. My husband drives me nuts... I know, mine drives me nuts too, if I see his socks on the chair one more time, grr!

It feels nice to get some support and she's being a good friend and you have a good friend and you feel better for a while. But I think sometimes it can backfire. Women encourage each other to accept things. We give each other reassurance. Tips on how to make do.

Status Quo Police. (No particular emphasis. I just like how it sounds like "Quid pro quo, Clarice..." : )

They are so ready to be there for you. "I would come down a dark alley just to be there for you!" Not "Hey, you know, this is a dark alley and it's midnight and there's something in the shadows... Why are we here again?"

My friend mentioned that she really didn't want to do {extremely unpleasant chore} with her husband and he should handle it without her. But I didn't miss a beat in throwing out 4 different reasons why it would actually be a good thing for her to do it with him. How it would actually be in her best interests to just do it. ...Wait, what did I just do? I told her later I was sorry that I gave her bad advice. She didn't have to want to do something she didn't want to. If she didn't like something she had every right to just not like it.

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Cartesian Product

Just want to say "Hi, I still exist!" : )

Tuesday, July 13, 2010


Thinking about that saying "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results."

Except for OCD handwashing, it's not necessary to be clinically insane. There's no need to have a phobia, or voices in your head saying, "Hey, do that again!"

This is a cop-out for the people who might think, consciously or unconsciously, "Yeah, well, I might be a little crazy. Every one's a little crazy... So, whatever. ♪ La Di Da ♪"

I think there may be a correlation between irrationality and psychosis, but psychosis is not a necessary cause for being irrational. (I wonder what a psychologist would have to say about this quote.)

Doing the same thing over and over is not the definition of insanity, but the definition of foolishness. No excuses.

Monday, July 12, 2010

With a Bow on Top

Just walked around the block, meditating on karaoke. I meditate on anything. I do the bell curve all the time.

If I can sing as good as I say I can, after a year of not practicing, that qualifies as a gift, a present I got without earning.

Songs are about expressing emotions, even if the emotion is just "I want to dance."

The songs I picked expressed longing, futility, hope. I do believe in the songs while I sing them. You can tell when someone is just technical. (My big flaw is that I can't dance. Britney Spears I am not.)

I am starting to appreciate my forum where sharing emotions and experiences with a good analogy or clever turn of phrase is just the thing we needed today.

Saturday, July 10, 2010

And Your Bird Can Sing

Just got home from going out to karaoke with some friends from High School. I had so much fun. It is so much more fun to be out with people instead of out by myself. Nobody hit on me at all, even though I look perfectly fine. So much better than fending off drunks or the strategy I discovered last time I went, about a year ago, which is to gather a cadre of old men. You have very nice interesting people to talk to and they keep each other at bay. And you can thank them for the conversation and leave no problem and yet everyone still had a successful evening. It's nice.

I am kind of wired because I had 7 or 8 cups of Diet Coke. : )

I didn't spend a dime because the waitress gave me pop for free. Well, I did leave her a $3 tip which is what I had. She never broke my $20.

Here are the songs I sang:

Carole King - So Far Away -- My warm-up song

Jefferson Airplane - Somebody to Love -- Managed to hold the final note all the way! wOOt! : )

Tommy Petty - Refugee -- This was my absolute favorite. I got an idea to sing this like Stevie Nicks and it turned out so good! People could tell what I was doing and liked it! I was so happy with it!

Lita Ford & Ozzy Osbourne - If I close my eyes forever -- This was DJ's idea for a duet and I did so badly he had to sing my part in my ear for me to know what to do. Turns out I didn't remember the song at all! : ) I try to avoid unrehearsed duets as much as possible. They hardly ever go well. Well enough anyway. Even though it sucks all you can do is pretend to be happy and thank the other person for singing with you and tell them how good they did, because usually they did do well. I am the weak, weak link.

Aretha Franklin - Chain of Fools -- Tore the roof off the sucker.

Janis Joplin - Bobby McGee -- Was transported to my own little Janis Joplin world. Had the place to myself. : )

Wow I almost forgot I could sing like that. But I didn't forget how! But one thing that happens when you go out with singers is they don't care as much. My friends didn't pay as much attention as a table full of rockers in front of them who had things like tattoos and huge earrings and nose rings. There was a guy named Spider who looked like Perry Farrell. They just sat there with rapt attention. It was so neat to impress rockers!

Okay, maybe I'm getting tired now. Maybe I'll do some Sudoku to get sleepy. Goodnight! : )

(Maybe I'll be back tomorrow morning in the afternoon.)

Friday, July 9, 2010

Tuesday, July 6, 2010

Shop Kmart, Shop K Mart

I went shopping at K Mart today, looking for cheap thrills, when I heard a lady kind of yelling into her cell phone. She was saying things like "No, I'm not over-reacting!" All kinds of things that you might not want to say loudly in the middle of K Mart unless you wanted help. She was walking in circles, arguing with her guy, talking in circles.

I was hanging around too because I found the cutest blouse on the clearance rack that was red with this pretty embroidered collar in the most interesting shade of marigold, that went with nothing. But was very "India", so worth trying. I even put it up against an olive green skirt, because red and olive green looks good on olives.

When she hung up I went over and said "Hi. Are you okay? Is there anything I can do? You shouldn't have to argue about your own feelings. They're yours and you have every right to have them." She said thanks that's very nice and she was okay and at least she wasn't married to him and seemed happy about that. And she went on her way.

I did not get the blouse.

Thursday, July 1, 2010

Just Ignore The Fact It's Baseball Season

When you throw your football of self-esteem at someone, they may fumble it, spike it, pop it, miss the pass altogether, run for their own touchdown, be playing for the other team, or maybe not even be the end receiver. Don't try to play catch with just anyone, just because you have a ball.